• It’s never going to happen.

    by  • November 14, 2011 • * Safe for Work *, Short -n- Sweet • 16 Comments

    I give up.

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    16 Responses to It’s never going to happen.

    1. ANEWDAY
      November 14, 2011 at 4:07 pm

      That’s how I feel




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    2. catcher
      November 14, 2011 at 6:33 pm

      We all feel like that at times as do I right now. Still. But how do you know its never going to happen. Karma has a strange way of working things out. Never give up. I’ve been to that extreme. Don’t let it consume you.




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    3. ANEWDAY
      November 15, 2011 at 8:12 am

      Very true…




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    4. catcher
      November 15, 2011 at 11:06 am

      And people can change. I know I’ve gone through some drastic changes in my life lately. Some for the better. Some not so good. Now ANEWDAY, back to our other discussion. I’ve expalain my comment, what’s the reasoning behind yours? Just wondering. You know it killed the cat.




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    5. ANEWDAY
      November 15, 2011 at 1:36 pm

      Well… it’s complicated, but I’m moving on I guess, not because I want to but because there is no other choice. In that sense I’m holding up a white flag.




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    6. catcher
      November 15, 2011 at 2:17 pm

      Never never ever give up. I believe you are a wonderful person and there is always another choice. One you may never have thought of.




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    7. ANEWDAY
      November 15, 2011 at 3:00 pm

      Thank you. I’ve been thinking about it a lot. What it comes down too is that I’m never going to give up on life and living, because frankly there is so much to live for. As catcher2 pointed out, there are so many ways to interpret the writings and letters on here. My interpretation of this particular one is that I’m finally beginning to accept that the one guy who courted, who gave me his word has finally given up the chase for me. There comes a point in a relationship for a woman (just as long as it’s not some creepy stalker) that if the man does not pursue the relationship further and openly admits to not wanting to change and deciding that he doesn’t want me anymore, then it’s time to hold up the white flag for me and begin to try and piece my life back together. I guess this is just my interpretation of this letter. Thank you to the writer for writing this, and I do hope and wish you the best in love, and the same goes for you too catcher.




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    8. ANEWDAY
      November 15, 2011 at 3:01 pm

      oops i meant to instead of the word too.




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    9. catcher
      November 15, 2011 at 4:46 pm

      Has he really given up? Have those words been said? I’m going to give you a little piece of my life. I was in a relationship with a lovely woman who I was and still am for some crazy reason willing to give all of myself to. Then one day I screwed up. Or she just shut down or found someone else. I’m not sure. When we were together she made me feel like I have neve felt before. No other woman has ever touched my soul like she does. Anyway one day she just decided she didn’t want to speak or be with me anymore. We didn’t speak for a few months. Then one day it all started back up again and once again I felt alive. We just wanted to be friends but it went so much further than that. We were back in a relationship. Then once again, she shut down. She hasn’t spoken to me since the first part of october. She said she was leaving because I was too controlling but I think there is something else behind it. A week and a half ago I was given some very bad news. A friend of mine died and his daughter is badly injured. The same evening I was told the woman I love was with someone else. All this in one day and I was at the edge. Yup. I was there. This would be my second time standing at the face of God and now I see the world in a whole new light. I’m just to damn scared to try to call her. She’s going to think I’m weak. Sorry darling but one man can only take so much. She’s going to kill me if she finds out I told you this but at this point I don’t care. I love her so much I am willing to wait forever if that’s what it takes and if the whole world knows it, good. Hell, you might be her as far as I know. Do you see where this is going. Its never really over until you get a big ol Ella Fitzgerald.




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    10. catcher
      November 15, 2011 at 6:52 pm

      And to clear things up that was me that pointed out the multiple ways to read a letter.




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    11. Catcher2
      November 15, 2011 at 7:27 pm

      Hmm.. I think she’s getting us mixed up. Perhaps I should consider different pseudonym… :-p

      Just my two cents: I don’t believe in impossibilities, or that something is “Never going to happen” when, in fact, there is a scientific possibility of such an event occurring. For example, ANEWDAY, I’ve told you about my heart issues with this one girl these last few months. It is entirely possible that I will receive a phone call or email from her asking the very thing my heart longs to hear, because she is *capable* of it. I can’t look inside her heart or her mind and see how the gears are turning. I don’t know what sort of experiences she’s going through, either externally or internally. All I have to go by is my perception of her from the time I’ve known her.

      I started to write a “book” right here, but I think this is best kept as simple as possible. Everyone has the capacity to change, or to experience a new event that has a major impact on their lives and perspectives, and they cannot be calculated or predicted. Is it unlikely that you’ll get what you want? Yeah, but I don’t think it’s impossible. My advice, as hard as it is to put into practice, is to hope for the best, but don’t put all your weight on it or else you will fall if it is pulled out from under you. Persist in hope and love, but be prudent and cautious for your own well-being.

      ~Catcher2




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    12. ANEWDAY
      November 16, 2011 at 7:56 pm

      Catcher,

      My bad! The two names, catcher and Catcher2 are easy to confuse for me. Thank you for sharing your story, and I apologize for not giving credit where it was rightly due for the comments you made earlier about how things can be interpreted in more than one way.

      I think I’m beginning to understand what you mean. He has said that he doesn’t want it in more ways than one. I’ve been angry for a few days now, but trying to get past all that now. In some ways I’m relieved, because he has been very controlling over the last four years, and that is not a healthy relationship by any means. I’m finally beginning to be back to my normal self, and can finally breathe again. I think he is learning more about himself, and I’m definitely learning more about myself everyday. Perhaps there is hope… that maybe one day things will change for the both of us, but for now the end for us is in sight. It is reality, as gruesome as it has been, and very painful, just as you are going through I can imagine.

      I am positive that I am not her, so in that sense what you’ve shared with me will not be shared with anyone, except for whoever reads this page of course.

      I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been having a tough time not only with loving her and feeling rejected, but also hearing about the death of your great friend. You will be in my prayers and as cliche as this sounds, I honestly hope that things will work out for you. You’ve given me a new perspective on hoping and never giving up…both of you have.

      Praying for you,

      ANEWDAY




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    13. ANEWDAY
      November 16, 2011 at 8:10 pm

      Catcher2,

      I had to laugh to myself, because just as I was beginning to comment to you Josh Groban’s song “The Prayer” started playing on Pandora. I had to laugh, because what you both have been saying about never giving up has finally clicked and what more appropriate song to come on than that at a time like this. In some ways it’s not comical at all… but you know what I mean.

      Honestly, I think I was letting my anger get the better of me and not allowing God to work in me. I didn’t want to give in to the “hope” anymore, but let things slide. It’s a fine line for me to walk to pray that God help me be open to the possibility that he might change, and we won’t end up going down the road of “no more us.” Hope that he will want me too. I don’t hear from him hardly at all. Time and time again I’ve hoped, I’ve prayed that little signs like that can be a glimmer of hope if he contacts me, only to be dashed as soon as it started. Where is the line where I can still maybe see the possibility of change or hope, and not become sucked into a pit of pain, depression, sorrow, and numbing pain?

      To me it seems like a fine line to walk, and I feel scared to even try and take that leap. Does that make any sense? Maybe I just don’t get it….




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    14. catcher
      November 16, 2011 at 8:15 pm

      As you will be in my prayers. I’m sure we will run across eachother again. Best wishes until then.




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    15. catcher
      November 17, 2011 at 5:32 pm

      It all makes perfect sense. At least to me. Trust me, it’s not just you that doesn’t get it. I honestly think none of us really understand when it comes to matters of the heart.




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    16. ANEWDAY
      November 18, 2011 at 10:06 am

      Thank you for praying. I’m sure we will run into each other again too. Glad I’m not the only one that is trying to make sense of “what doesn’t make sense.” It’s nice to know that there is more than one boat floating on this endless ocean of finding “loves destination.”




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