I’d like to take the time to thank you. Thank you for showing me what I do not want to be when I am a parent. Thank you for showing me how exactly opposite I’d like to behave when I’m responsible for another life. You both should be ashamed of yourselves. I know you love us girls, but your close minded ways are tearing our family apart slowly and you can’t even see that.
Mom: I know you struggle with being upset that we aren’t exactly who you want us to be. But guess what, that is just life. You need to accept the fact that we are not going to be who you want us to be. We are our own individual people. Stop over reacting about everything. You’ve made your own daughter feel like she only disappoints you. That is so sad. You shouldn’t be disappointed in her, she is an amazing woman. But you can’t get past the fact that she has different believes than you do. Open your eyes. You shouldn’t be sad that she is different, you should be happy she is who she is. If you don’t stop acting like everything we do is wrong, we are going to get tired of it and give up on you, is that what you want?
Dad: You are the most impatient man I know. I literally feel like I need to constantly tell you to calm down because you are ridiculously mad or irritated at something. Just relax. Life isn’t about how fast you can get home on a busy street. You need to take better care of yourself. At least mom is trying. You have horrible eating habits, which I thought you’d learn to at least try to be better about that since you had a heart attack. You never want to be involved with the family. You’re so lazy. You don’t even want to take the time to watch a rented movie with us downstairs because you’re too tired or don’t feel well. Pretty sure it doesn’t take much to sit your ass on the couch and watch a movie with me. It’s pathetic.
Can you both just take a look at your life. I know you aren’t perfect, but you could at least try to improve some things. It’s so sad. I feel like I can’t even talk to you about important things anymore because I don’t want you to judge me or make me feel like I’m not good enough for you. I might not think the way you do, or believe the same things, but that shouldn’t mean that i’m not good enough. And also, you need to seriously stop thinking that our family is so perfect. Sure we don’t have any unwed pregnancies or divorce or anything dramatic like that, but we are far from perfect.
You also need to take a look at your relationship. It is a hot mess. Mom has openly admitted to me that she is bored when it’s only you two around. That is so sad. You do nothing together. You argue about the smallest things. Are you even happy with each other anymore? You probably should go into some couples therapy or some shit because you could benefit from it.
Also, I recognize we are not made out of money. How about you stop spending it on stupid shit and actually save up, instead of complaining how there is always no money. I’m in college and I feel like I can’t even ask you for money without there being some kind of hidden agenda or feeling guilty about it. That is crazy. I live pay check to pay check because I don’t want to deal with you and your sly comments about how much you help out and how poor you are. Sometimes I just want to tell you to shut the hell up and instead of complaining about money use it more wisely.
So thank you. Thank you for showing me that I never want to be a selfish, impatient, obese, close minded, dramatic, lazy parent like you.