• who teaches us to feel this way?

    by  • June 28, 2011 • Confusion, Heartbreak • 3 Comments

    everyone suffers from heart break right? whether your significant other cheats, or you lose someone special to cancer, or anything else. but why don’t books or schools teach us how to deal with these feelings? i just had my first heartbreak from my boyfriend of 2 years. and i know how that can seem insignificant while others are dealing with much harder things, it feels as though my world has fallen apart. i wish someone or something would have told me how to accurately deal with these feelings. how is it that someone learns how to be so cruel? what makes people do the things they do? why is love so difficult yet so extraordinary? no one prepares someone to feel these things.

    i’m young. i’m only 20. i have my entire life ahead of me. and yet i feel as though i have nothing to really live for. how could i let a boy take over my life this way? i’m in love and i’m the type of girl who loves the idea of being in love. why didn’t anyone teach me that i deserve better or that i didn’t need to abandon my friends. i was naive and blinded by this boy. don’t get me wrong, he was amazing in every aspect…but we faded apart. i wish someone would have taught me how to deal with these things.


    3 Responses to who teaches us to feel this way?

    1. lauren
      June 29, 2011 at 6:54 am

      I can honestly say this was my EXACT relationship. 2 years we were together and it just fell apart. i’m still in love with him but he has moved on without me. I wish someone told me how to deal with it.

    2. Black Magic Sarcasm
      June 29, 2011 at 9:47 am

      I understand what you’re feeling, not from a boyfriend, but from my best fried of 6 years. We didn’t stop being friends, we stopped having contact with one another. I think it’s good to feel this way, and not to just deny the feelings. Too many times I have felt this way and thought it ridiculous, so I stopped myself from feeling that way. Soon enough, the emotions came back, worse than they were when I was going through it. It sucks, but these are things that we have to feel…

    3. anon
      June 29, 2011 at 2:55 pm

      ‘ type of girl who loves the idea of being in love’

      Maybe this comes a little late but the thing is just this: Nobody has a manual for life and it’s emotions. Everybody has to learn their own lessons and one can only hope to have loving shoulders to lean on and to turn to.

      As for my re-quote: the idea of being in love is not the love you are actually looking for. There will probably be many more heartbreak,s in one way or another, but if you keep in mind, that everything has a reason, you may find them later on.

      What works for me somehow is:
      If it’s gone or broken, it wasn’t meant to be and not what I want anyway. When it’s true, you will know right then and there. Cliche’? Possible to some but proven to be just that in my life.

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