To The Three of You,
Look, I know you’ve been his friends for most of his life. I value that friendship and envy it a little. Moving around as much as I did, I’ll never have those lifelong friends. But part of being someone’s friend means not taking him for granted, and respecting him.
In the last year since he moved an hour and a half away to go to college, you haven’t been to see him once, and I go every weekend. Yet you harp on him about “spending all his time with me”. No. no. I didn’t even have a car for the last 6 months, and I took the train and the bus. You have no excuse, and to degrade him for spending time with his girlfriend when you’re too lazy to make the trip is just fucking shitty.
And another thing. I like you guys. I like you a lot. I just never hang out with you because it the 9 months he and I have been dating, he’s lived far away, and you guys never come down and hang out with us. So please stop trying to act like this is in someway my fault.
Finally, if you’re REAL friends to him, you will stop trying to get him to get back together with his ex. They broke up over a year ago, and it was because she was abusive, she cheated on him, and she was a little bit of a crazy person. We’ve been together for 9 months, and we are blissfully happy together. We’re looking at houses, we’re planning a wedding. I want you guys to be there and be a part of that. But calling me his “rebound” and encouraging this crazy girl to call him at all hours of the night isn’t what friends-or people that I want to be a part of my future, frankly, do.
So please, please, stop trying to act like this is about me, when this is so clearly about you. Be good friends to him, because that’s what he needs. And please, for the love of god, stop encouraging that psychopath to call him…because if we wake up to her phone calls at 3 a.m. one more time I’m going to lose my shit.
Your “best friend’s” girl.