I love you
by admin • January 31, 2011 • * Safe for Work *, Fear, Friends, Love - Pure and Simple, Staff Faves, Yearning for You • 143 Comments
Hey,
I have been thinking about how to tell you this for months. At first I thought I would just run up to you and say it. Then I actually considered just kissing you, cutting right to the chase. The thing is, we’re friends. Not only that but we’ve only started to get really close recently. I love it. I love being your friend, I love texting you, talking to you on the phone and I love seeing your face. But, the problem is, I may love you. I really want to tell you, see your face and have you say it back. But, what if you don’t? What if you just look at me with the blank stare you’ve spent your entire life perfecting? What if you reject me? What if it ruins everything we’ve gained over the last year. What if it ruins us?
I want to tell you so badly, but I don’t want to risk losing you. So I’m going to tell you here. I’ll tell the world instead.
I love you.
I can tell you from experience, it’s better to tell them. Even if everything falls apart, it’s better to try, fail, and know than to not try and never know what could’ve happen. The what if is more painful than anything they could say back to you. It’s been 9 years and I still spend every day wishing I had told him.
Its strange that sometimes that person may feel the same unless you ask them (in a non-intrusive manner of course). There is that life-long struggle of being friends to being something more, but the attempt must be made because its pointless to live with the “What if” question for the rest of your life if had not tried.
I have this same problem with a guy and I have to say this letter really spoke to me. It was beautiful!!
I Love You Too.
Well, I tried, failed, crashed, and burned, baby. Sometimes playing it cautious is the way to be. (I’m a guy)
Depends which way you look at it. At least it will make it easier to move on emotionally instead of keeping hopes, wishes, dreams up and messing with your own head. In a situation like this, there is really nothing to loose at all but everything to gain
IMHO
i know how you feel but sometimes it better to figure out weither its love, infatuation, lust, or just attraction. For most young people its quite often that they make the mistake of falling in love with a close friend. the cause is because they have not gotten over a base fear of being alone. So in order to get over that fear they come to understanding that dating the person who is there, is the one. when really it should be the person who is there when they don’t have to be there and your able to do the same for them.
i have this problem right now, so i totally feel ya. my problem is not just that i’ve fallen for my best friend, who’s going to college this fall while i stay here in our small town, but that i’m a girl, and so is she. so i really have no idea what her reaction would be.
I had the exact, and when I say exact, I mean EXACT feelings for a girl at my school. The first time I met her, I was fallen, and continued to fall harder every moment I laid eyes on her. We became the best of friends in only 5 short months. She would tell me everything and I would be her sympathetic listener. After countless mistakes with other guys,I would be her shoulder to cry on and her rock to support her. I continued to hold back my feelings, fearing she would push me away. The catch was, she was an exchange student from Germany, and had limited time in the States. She left 3 weeks ago, and I never told her how I felt. It haunts me everyday. Do not make a mistake by holding back your feelings because you will never know what you could have had.
This letter really spoke to me. I feel the same way about my best guy friend. He’s so perfect & amazing. I wish that i could tell him, but i am scared of rejection…..
I was in this situation. I felt this way about one of my best friends, but I told myself there was no way she could feel the same way back. Then one night, she kissed me. I’ve never been so in love. Things have been complicated; she’s still in the closet so we don’t want anyone finding out. Even if things don’t work out between us, I know we’ll always be friends. I’m thankful she had the courage to reach out.
I don’t know you but I like to pretend that this letter is the boy that I secretly love saying this to me.
Same situation only opposite! My best friend of 3 years has been in love with me almost the entire length of our friendship. I knew that he knew and I was POSITIVE that I just wanted to be friends so I never brought it up. My friends always teased me about being in love with him and I constantly denied it! Then one day I didn’t..I wasn’t sure what that meant but I knew it threw a curveball into my plan. Just being friends wasn’t enough for me. Then came the whole fear of losing my best friend because I know that I need him more than anyone. I got some good advice from a friend who told me to “Just Go With It”..after many prayers and long talks with friends I decided I would just go with it..and now here I am a few months later with the greatest boyfriend and the best friend I’ve ever had. I can truely say that the greater the risk the greater the reward. As scary as it can be to let go of everything holding you back. I would have to say from my own experience that it’s definitely worth it
I told my boyfriend after only a few months that I love him, and he didn’t reciprocate. But we talked it out, waited, spent countless more beautiful moments together, and after 6 months, he knew what his feelings were, and we are happily in love. Sometimes it takes a little trial and error, but with time, everything just makes sense. It’s beautiful and infuriating all at once. You work with lots of different colors, but it’s gonna make once hell of a picture. So tell him. What’s the worst that could happen?
What if they feel the same way?
I could’ve written the exact same thing. Met him this past school year, and this past January we started to become so much closer. He confuses me, he frustrates me because he has yet to ask me to hang out with him one on one. It’s summer now, we’ve talked once and I was the one that texted him. I just want one phone call, I miss his voice. I miss his face. We have such a great friendship, but when I’m around him, I just want to hold his hand or just kiss him. But I’m afriad too, I don’t want to ruin our great friendship. But I’m learning now, that I have to be BOLD. I hope I get a positive response.
P.S: I think I might love you, Ted.
just tell your friend. you wouldn’t ruin your “us” because if he’s truly your friend and cares about you, he wouldnt let your feelings come in between your friendship. it’ll be easier for you to get your feelings out in the open and maybe he’ll even feel the same way. and if he doesn’t at least you know and you can go on being friends. there really is no reason for it to ruin anything
I felt the same way about my best friend. We are in love now and planning our lives together.
Usually i don’t respond to things like this… haha i just look at other peoples problems and say whatever HOWEVER this is how i see it, a guy that i used to be like BEST FRIENDS with and had liked me for the past 3 years asked me to our Jr. Prom i never had the feelings for him and he wanted to go more as friends (he’s the pushy type) so i tried to quietly ignore him, yet it was kinda hard to do cause he did it in an embarrassing way… but getting to the point i should have gave him a chance… you need friendship in order to create a great relationship and i bet you that your male friend knows that. I know the feeling that you are talking about where you wish every word from his mouth was about you and you just want to spend all the time in the world with him. If he was a smart one he would already know your feelings. Guys are just sometimes idiots and don’t see what’s in front of them… TAKE the leap and just tell him if you guys stop being friends over something this stupid then thats on him and there will always be another guy friend that will just get you.. thats what i have learned.. TELL HIM
just tell her that you love her.. there’s no harm in trying and everything is worth a try.. you’ll feel more relieved when you tell the truth and the truth will set you free..
i need to tell the girl i love somthing myself…
I went through the same exact thing. A few days ago I finally got up the courage to tell him how i felt. He didn’t feel the same, but listen, I finally felt some piece of mind knowing that I didn’t waist my life wondering what would have happened. Regret is not worth it. Tell him, he will understand and you never know it may make your relationship stronger it did for me even though he didn’t feel exactly the same. We are still good friends and now we can talk much more openly about things. Take a chance. Forget regret.
I know how you feel man. I’m kind of in the same boat. I currently live away from my friends and family while attending college (about 5 hours away) and there is a girl back home who I have been great friends with for the past 4 years or so. She’s probably the most down to Earth girl I’ve ever known and for a time I was her shoulder to cry on. She dated a friend of mine for close to a year then found out that he had been cheating on her for 3 months and she was obviously devastated. Even before they dated I had a thing for her but it wasn’t as strong then as it is now. Her birthday was the other day and I called her that evening and she was drunk, but we had a great conversation that lasted for about 20 minutes. When I wished her a happy birthday and said goodnight, she said “goodnight. I love you.” I’m sure it was the booze talking, but it still felt great to hear her say that. Either way, I’ll be seeing her in a few weeks when I head home for the first time in almost a year so I’m hoping to muster up the courage to tell her how I feel, because I’m not exactly an open person when it comes to sharing my feelings.
“It is a risk to love. What if it doesn’t work out? Ah, but what if it does?” -Peter McWilliams
This quote got me to tell my boyfriend how I feel about him… and I got rejected. But then I started seeing this other guy… and then the boy who rejected me saw what he lost.
And now we have been dating for a full year, and we couldn’t be happier.
Tell them..i did and even rejected i was able to move one.
It was seventh grade. Me and this girl started talking a little(I would later find out that she is far from, “this girl”) She liked me, i liked her. Neither would openly say it, seeing as we were only in seventh grade, and it was just a thing to do. We were both too shy. One day, my friend would see us at the snack machine, and also see that i was too shy and she was too shy for either of us to do anything. He declared us “going out”. We would end up dating for little over a week. I do remember though, in that week-long period. Our school had a planetaruim that the science classes would go to. We layed on our backs together staring up at all the stars, rubbing our feet against eachothers. And that was the extent of our goings out. Anyway, for three years, we would talk every now and then. She always had this thing for me. We hungout with some of the same people and would occasionally find ourselves alone together. Every now and then she would send me a text, asking me “who i liked”. I would usually not respond. However, two years later, we would start talking again. Texting, staying up on the phone all night, even playing movies at the same time and talking on the phone throughout them, pretending we were on a date. We would make plans to do so many things together. She was my secret best-friend. It was getting close to Christmas when we really got close. Christmas eve, she asked the question again. (Looking back now, i can see that i was affraid of having her, and then losing her.) She was my best-friend. But she wanted more, and truthfully, so did I. It was freshmen year. I never texted her back that night. Christmas eve, and she was so dedicated to me. I didn’t break her heart, i destroyed her. And i had no idea. We wouldnt talk for a long time. Through facebook, i had seen that she had started a relationship with another guy. Everyone on the face of the earth, including me, knew that she was crazy about me, and had been for years. No one knew anything about our Best friendship, and our late night pretend movie dates. When all my friends got to saying that she had finally moved on, i would say “yeah, finally”. Deep down, it ripped me apart.(she has no idea about this even now) Towards what proved to be the tail end of their few month relationship, we would start talking again. Awkward at first, but still, that instant chemistry. She was weird, i was weird. She would talk to me more than her boyfriend at the time. When i had seen on facebook, “is now single” i didn’t think much. (She was my only relationship throughout all of these years, since seventh grade.) Like always, i got a text. “so, were kind of on a break right now. A.K.A im single again.” She would always less than subtly let me know she was still wild about me. We started talking again, constantly texting. I had my best-friend back. No one knew a thing about it. Throughout all of these years, i had despised relationships, thinking they were just “the thing to do” and would end unhappily, and result in too many awkward situations. We started talking again. Closer than ever. I still remember exactly. October fifth, the first day, we agreed to hangout. Still not wanting a relationship, just wanting my best-friend. That was the night we first kissed. That was the night that we sat on the porch of a random house, for hours. Talking, sitting as close as possible to eachother. It was never awkward. The moment before we kissed, every single pre concieved thought i had in my mind disappeared. There was never a thought that i would want anything else. I had realized that all that time we spent texting and on the phone. I was falling in love. The thing that i could not figure out, was how she waited for me. How she came back to me. How she was still there, ready for me. After the pain i put her through. This just showed me how much she truly cared.How she really did love me. And i did not want to hurt her again. And i have made a promise to myself to never hurt her like i have before. How her happiness is essential to mine. How i would, and do, do anything for her. What im trying to show is, her doubts about me must have been so large, they could have walked around the world and back. But somehow, she waited, waited until i was ready. The last nine months have been amazing. Miserable. Surprising. But most of all, exactly what i wanted. And exactly what i have. I know now, that i don’t want anything else in life other than to wake up to her every morning. To sit in my room with her wearing my clothes, doing nothing. I utilize every chance i get to let her know that im here to stay and that she is the only girl for me, and of course how much i truly care. She was my Best-friend, and now, she is my girlfriend. Have her patience. If you truly care and love this person, and they feel the same about you, eventually it will be. If not, maybe your relationship will take off well, but the crash will be even more painful. Wait, just wait. I love you, Veyla.
This is the most beautiful letter I’ve ever read.
tell them! don’t wait years, like i did to finally tell them. i am married (to someone else) but now know that if i would have spoken up, i’d be married to him instead. and it kills me that he felt the same way all these years but was too scared to tell me for the same reasons.
I love how this expresses exactly how I feel. We went to the movies the other day, and he paid (so I thought it was a date), yet he didn’t hold my hand. I asked him after the movie if he thought of me as just a friend and he said “yeah, of course”. I am so confused, but I guess I might as well give up now, before I fall even harder. =/
This has been my exact situation for over a year, and I would have told him months ago…just kissed him, but he has a girlfriend that he’s been dating for over a year who he also loves. And this summer he stopped talking to me. He even skipped out on my birthday. One of my best friends called me the other day to tell me that the reason he wwas ignoring me was because he fell for me too, and he is afraid he will hurt her. I have cried myself to sleep over him every night of this summer, not knowing what I had done to make him reject me so suddenly. And now I see that it was nothing I did, it was simply that we both fell for each other at the wrong time. And the worst part is, he will do anything to make his relationship work, because that’s the type of guy he is…its part of the reason why I love him. And so we’re stuck in the middle…both knowing exactly how the other feels, but not being able to give in to it. I’m scared for when school starts again. Because as much as I hate him for being the reason for the worst summer of my life, I still love him. I’m scared that nothing will change that, and that I’ll never get my best friend back.
every word in this describes how i feel for my best friend. but he knows that i like him, he just doesn’t know that its more than that. i’m in love with him. & i have been for over a year. but we can’t even have one conversation together without fighting & me crying. but that just started this summer, & when we were still in school, we were as close as you could imagine, the best of best. everyone kept telling us to just go out & get it over with even teachers told us that. but i guess they just assumed we liked each other cause my love for him is so strong, it radiates from me. & i guess we all just confused it for mutual feelings
I came across this letter and this is exactly how I feel. To me, the 3 most simple words known to man are also the 3 most hardest words to say. I have this great guy friend and we have recently been getting close. There’s only one problem: he’s taken. He tells me that he is unhappy and he can talk to me and get things off his chest, but doesn’t do anything to change the way he feels. I never wanted to get close because I didn’t want to be “that girl” but as time goes on, I have realized that I really like him and I try my hardest to not think about him and our situation. I wish that it was as simple as telling him that I like him but I can’t break up what he has right now without making myself feel guilty. I use the word like because I don’t want to admit to myself that I am truely in love with him. We hardly see each other but talk almost every day. If we could see each other, I have a feeling that this would be a lot harder. He has also told me that he likes me, but doesn’t know how to “get out” of what he is in now. I wish that I could say, “I love you” and it all be over with..
i just went through this exact thing. what i’d like to say is that although i hope it ends differently for you, make sure that what you’re feeling is not being affected by people saying things to you about this person “i think … would be good for you” “you’d make a good couple”
it clouds your judgement and can change what is just a good friendship to in your eyes a connection.
its an anxious situation im sure, i think you should say something to the person though, if your feelings are so strong, for the sake of your friendship even, because its almost definite you are acting different around him to when you were just thinking of him as a friend.
i hope this helps you.
good luck with whomever this is directed to.
Somtimes you have to take the chance! You never know what he’s going to say!
Trust me he probably feels the same way!!
You know this is the exact same thing as I am feeling I’m going to send this to my guy friend who I feel this way towards. I hope things go over well.
I know how you feel, I’m in the same situation with my best friend. My best friends a guy.
my story the past 8 months. I fell for you after an insignificant bike ride to “our” alley. I fell even harder when you kissed me for the first time. I remember every second. harder still when our birthdays happend to fall a day apart. but you had a girlfriend, and therefore wouldn’t even look at me. you were just getting out of a nasty relationship and getting back into a whole bunch more. while Iwaited like a sitting duck, like taylor swift thinking that you belong with me waiting at your back door so many nights. wanting for you to talk to me first. kissed you a few more times, but you were still hung up on these other girls. Christmas comes and you unexpectdly show up at my front door with a present for me. but i’m pretty sure you were forced to. invited not by you to your families christmas party after i give you my gift. a reminder of the first time we hung out together. a month goes by where your single and we are happily talking to each other and everything seems to be OK between us. then one night i tell you my exact feelings for you, what do you reply? you think of me as a sister, yet you say “stay the night with me” i didnt, and if i would have it would have been awful in the longrun. exactly one week later we have our deepest conversation yet. you confide in me and tell me im the only one who knows about it. i feel as if we are best friends. then you get me into your room to make out with me. absolutly confusing every single part of my brain that was even still sane at that point. that was the last day of January. in February Valentines day i send you a single rose. but you were being a such doucchebag and won’t talk to me at all. i pass you in the hallways and am crushed when you just walk away. but the whole time i tell myself you are not worth my crying over. then in march you start talking to me again,, i am extactic and over enthused. i again tell you how i feel and that i also understand everything that you say about you not wanting to change me. even though you already have. but you ignore me. every single time i say something to you you just completley make me feel rejected. and i have told you this many times through letters and in person. but you still don’t respond. but your brother tells me that you are trying not to fall in love again. and like an idiot i believed him and just gave you your space and when i thought you were over it i askked you to prom and now i am in the middle of a mini soap opera between me you and your brother and im hoping this isnt the end of it between us but im pretty sure it is over. I get it now Your just not that into me and i need to give up. needed to a long time ago.
My best friend and I started dating three and a half months ago. We had known each other for years and gotten really close in the last year. We saw each other more and more and feelings evolved into something different (at least for him, I had always wanted to be with him). It went so well for three months. Then (as he put it two days ago) it got too complicated. Apparently it went from being good friends who were romantic, to just girlfriend and boyfriend. I don’t know what changed his mind so fast, we had talked about falling in love two weeks ago. Now he wants to go back to being best friends. I don’t know if I can do that. I still think I love him, or at least really want to. The worst part is that now he knows that. If only this could be easy.
I was in the exact same boat in the beginning of the year. Like, so similar that it sounds like I wrote this. Don’t let me choose for you, but everyone kept telling me, “Tell him how you feel! Do it!” So, I did. It was the worst mistake in my life so far. He apparently didn’t feel the same way, and he hasn’t talked to me in months. All I can say is: be careful with your decision, there could be really bad consequences. And people say, “You’ll feel better, wouldn’t you rather know?” and I think that they can go [naughty word] themselves. Just don’t let anyone else make your decisions. Be strong.
I know you want to. But my advice is to not. I’m in love with my best friend and I wanted to tell him so bad. Just when I was about to, he told me he was going to ask this one slut out. I said okay walked away and cried in the bathroom. Now whenever i get the nerve to finally tell him, I listen to you belong with me by taylor swift because at least in the music video they end up falling in love.
Tell them on April Fools Day. I was in a very similar situation (with the added complication that the persons twin was also my friend… awkward.) and I told him on April Fools Day – he felt the same way and I’m still shocked about it all, but if they don’t, just pretend it was a joke. Soon enough they’ll forget it, but even if they don’t feel the same way, you’ll have planted the idea in their head, and sometimes that can make them look at you in a new light, and it won’t risk your friendship. Try it.