You know who you are. You know what you did. I guess I was just a stupid girl for believing that you and I would actually be together. Boy, was I wrong. You decided to stay with her. That makes perfect sense, stay with the girl who drunkenly cheated on you, I’m sure not just once either. The girl who makes you so angry that you just want to shut down. The girl who took three years of your life away from you. I used to feel bad for you because of what she did to you. Now though, I feel sorry for you because you are too much of a pushover to do what is right for you and DUMP HER!
I’m not just saying this because I like you a lot. That is part of it, but not all of it. I’m saying this as your friend. She is terrible to and for you. I’ve seen the way you get around her, and I hear the anger and regret in your voice when you talk with her. SO I guess I just don’t understand how breaking up with her would be a difficult choice to make. You say that you love her and you have been with her for three years, and you’re right, that’s a HUGE deal that shouldn’t be taken lightly, but she cheated on you, which means the circumstances of your break-up have changed. To me, if a person is unfaithful, then what is the point in keeping them around? Your heart is going to get broken again. And to be honest with you, I’m not so sure how much you love her anymore, if you even still do.
You want to know what I think? You’re scared. You’re scared of what your life will be like without her. You were with her for three years, that’s basically your entire high school life! You grew up with her. That’s a bond you two will have forever. Then you two graduated from high school and went to separate colleges almost 4 hours away from each other. OF COURSE THINGS WERE GOING TO CHANGE! I mean, I’m sure no one expected her to cheat on you, and yeah, that was wrong of her, but she changed! You changed! PEOPLE CHANGE! IT happens! We are young adults, basically still kids, and we are going to change as we grow up. College is a new chapter in our lives, everyone changes at least a little bit. That is normal. Another normal thing, is growing apart from someone. That can be a scary thing too, but sometimes, you just have to take risks! Be impulsive and spontaneous! Take chances!
You can’t be afraid to get close to people. You can’t be afraid that someone is going to hurt you because if you do, you are going to hurt yourself. I know that even if you did read this and agree with it, you still won’t leave her. You two are going to end up getting married, and having kids, and having one heck of an unhappy marriage. DON’T SETTLE FOR SOMEONE WHO YOU HAVE KNOWN FOR A LONG TIME JUST BECAUSE IT IS COMFORTABLE. Comfortable doesn’t always equal happy. Take a chance on someone new.