A year ago, I had an abortion. I do not feel ashamed, devastated, torn apart, or full of guilt.
I got pregnant just about a month after breaking up with my boyfriend of 5 1/2 years. I had a drunken one night stand with a friend I had known for about 10 years. I started getting morning sickness about 2 1/2 weeks later.
The abortion itself was terrible. I was early on when I found out and opted for the medical abortion (the abortion pill). I figured it would be a more natural approach as it would be similar to having a miscarriage. For most people this is a great option but for me it was 12+ hours of hell. There was lots of vomiting, bleeding, diarrhea. I had waves of heat rushing through my body and cramps that kept me on the floor weeping for it to be over. I felt like I was on horrible drugs and couldn’t quite understand what was going on. I have since found out that this is very rare and most women simply cramp and bleed for a few hours and its over.
The only thing I regret is taking the pill. I should have gotten the surgical abortion. Other than that, I am so very happy to have had that option. I did not love the man I got pregnant with. He was not the right partner for me or father of my child. Just a few weeks after my abortion I met the man I am still with a year later. We talk of getting married and having kids of our own. The abortion allowed me to control my path. It gave me the chance to gain the life I saw for myself and my future family. A family that will be born of love, not mistakes.