• Dear Great-Grandfather I Will Never Know

    by  • September 21, 2010 • Addiction, Family Stuff, Those Gone Before Us • 1 Comment

    Hi, I’m your great-granddaughter. I was born in 1991. I never knew you because you died before I was born.

    According to my father (your grandson) and my grandmother (your daughter) you were an alcoholic. You were also an abusive man who hurt my grandmother and my great-uncles.

    From stories I heard you were not a good man, you were hurtful and you drank a lot and smoked all the time.

    Your son Frank, in his later years spent it in nursing homes and psychiatric facilities. He was an alcoholic just like you, he played the drums too. He had very severe Alzheimer’s and died a few months ago. Now my grandma is the only one living out of all her half and full siblings.

    I want you to know that I have many problems you had. Because of you I have inherited
    severe depression, ADHD, Bipolar-Disorder and many other emotional problems. Not only did I get these from you, but you passed them on to my grandma. Whom I might add is the most wonderful old lady I know.

    You also wonderfully passed down the trait of alcoholism, which I might add, I probably have. You passed on the addiction trait to my whole family, me of which has it the worst.

    Through your history, you probably didn’t see your family as amazing. But I tell you this, my grandma is amazing. She is loving and I love her. She has medical problems, but she is getting old. She has times when she’s sad, and it’s hard for her. But even when you couldn’t see that, your later relatives have turned out well (even myself).

    So that’s what I want to say to you, if you were still living.

    One Response to Dear Great-Grandfather I Will Never Know

    1. srsly
      September 21, 2010 at 12:47 pm

      my family has a long line of alcohlism as well. I’m 26 and have drank maybe 5 times in my entire life. I decided at a young age that I would break the family cycle. My kids deserved better, and so did I. You can beat this before it gets any worse than it is. I promise you can!

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