• Unsure

    by  • September 2, 2010 • Cheating, Fear, Grief, Love - Pure and Simple, Marriage • 2 Comments

    Up til now, my marriage has been perfect. Missing one thing. Passion.

    Now I have found it, but with someone else.

    I love 2 men, in 2 different ways. Both too good for me, and both love me more than I can believe.

    I’ve never been so unhappy to be happy. I know what I must do, but the doing is heartrending.

    I hate crying.

    2 Responses to Unsure

    1. Lindsey
      September 2, 2010 at 10:05 am

      Unfortunately I know this situation just as much as you. I may not be married but I was in a three year relationship.

      Unfortunately, there isn’t an easy way to deal with this situation. I had to weigh my options with both people and choose who was best for me. There’s always ways to bring spice back into a relationship. But you can’t force emotional attachment.

      Truth is, people are gonna hurt. And one of them will be you, but you don’t want just passion, you want someone who loves you and can support you and knows you.

      Good luck.

    2. serenity
      September 2, 2010 at 10:48 am

      What I learned from my past relationship of 5 years: don’t choose a man that you can only be passionate with. He will never love you to the extent that you deserve to be loved. He will never appreciate you the way you ought to be appreciated. I would choose the perfect marriage over passion. As you age, you will want someone who wants to be with you no matter what rather than someone who just wants you for the good chemistry you two share. I agree with the person above me; there are ways to spice up your relationship. But once it’s gone, it’ll be gone forever. Don’t ruin something that’s good. Passion fades. Real love will not.

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