• Something for girls to think about

    by  • September 2, 2010 • Inspiration, Love - Pure and Simple, Positive Vibes, To You • 4 Comments

    I just thought about this today. Girls have this weird thing where every relationship they have, they think it’s going to be The One, you know? Even if you don’t admit it, you eventually imagine some sort of future with a guy you’re with. They over-analyze everything. Absolutely everything. And they kill relationships before they give them a chance or room to grow into what they want. They just THINK too much.

    I realized, though some guys that I’ve dated, or guys that I have gone back to and basically used, really, that all they want is a good time. Present tense. They think largely about sex, or just really about the happiness that results from being around you. They’re much more carefree. I can’t speak for all girls, really. But I think that personally, as a girl, if I could be more like this it would actually help out my relationships.

    I think girls maybe need to just calm down. Just enjoy the simplicity in the happiness that comes from a relationship. Even if it’s just sex. So WHAT that it’s just sex. If you started the relationship that way, keep it up. You both obviously wanted it. Maybe someday it will evolve into something more. Maybe not. I don’t know why we feel so pressured to make something of it.

    Sometimes I get myself into relationships and over-analyze everything and try to make things too serious too soon, and then when they do become serious I realize I didn’t want it to be that way. I don’t want marriage, I’m only 22 for Christ’s sake.

    Think about it, do you really want to be that tied down already? And as soon as you break up, what will you be looking for? A simple hookup probably. The adrenaline that comes with discovering a new body. Why not keep that feeling with the person you’re with at the moment? It’s almost nicer to that person in that way.

    Yeah, eventually you’ll want familiarity and closeness and friendship and security… but why not let it evolve naturally? Maybe by the time you let yourself want it, that guy will finally want it too.

    I’m not sure if any of this is valuable advice. I just thought about it and I’ve never looked at it this way before. It might take some more time to cultivate this idea more thoroughly, but I just thought I’d put it out there.

    4 Responses to Something for girls to think about

    1. Jessie
      September 3, 2010 at 12:46 am

      I agree with you completely. As a girl, I do get those feelings that every guy is gunna be the one, but I also get the feeling about just havin fun, havin sex. So I just try to use those to drown out the others.

    2. Jaik
      September 3, 2010 at 10:20 am

      I wish all girls would read this.This is so true.

    3. Cat
      September 3, 2010 at 1:44 pm

      I couldn’t agree with you more. I’ve been in a relationship where I really did think he was the one, but so did he. He actually thought it so much more than I did that it ended up driving me away, because that’s just not healthy at 20. Now I’m involved with an ex and I started thinking “why are things moving so beyond slow”… then I said something. He freaked out. I realized that what we have isn’t serious, and probably won’t turn into anything serious. So now I just enjoy it whenever we see each other, and that’s working out really well for my own sanity.

    4. Renee
      September 3, 2010 at 1:47 pm

      I have also come to this thought pattern recently, after exiting from a terrible relationship. What’s wrong with having fun, anyway? I think maybe a lot of girls feel guilty about having fun just for the sake of it, because “girls aren’t supposed to act that way.” Well, screw that shit. I’m going to live my life with joyous abandon, and I encourage all other girls to follow suit, whatever that means for them.

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