I just thought about this today. Girls have this weird thing where every relationship they have, they think it’s going to be The One, you know? Even if you don’t admit it, you eventually imagine some sort of future with a guy you’re with. They over-analyze everything. Absolutely everything. And they kill relationships before they give them a chance or room to grow into what they want. They just THINK too much.
I realized, though some guys that I’ve dated, or guys that I have gone back to and basically used, really, that all they want is a good time. Present tense. They think largely about sex, or just really about the happiness that results from being around you. They’re much more carefree. I can’t speak for all girls, really. But I think that personally, as a girl, if I could be more like this it would actually help out my relationships.
I think girls maybe need to just calm down. Just enjoy the simplicity in the happiness that comes from a relationship. Even if it’s just sex. So WHAT that it’s just sex. If you started the relationship that way, keep it up. You both obviously wanted it. Maybe someday it will evolve into something more. Maybe not. I don’t know why we feel so pressured to make something of it.
Sometimes I get myself into relationships and over-analyze everything and try to make things too serious too soon, and then when they do become serious I realize I didn’t want it to be that way. I don’t want marriage, I’m only 22 for Christ’s sake.
Think about it, do you really want to be that tied down already? And as soon as you break up, what will you be looking for? A simple hookup probably. The adrenaline that comes with discovering a new body. Why not keep that feeling with the person you’re with at the moment? It’s almost nicer to that person in that way.
Yeah, eventually you’ll want familiarity and closeness and friendship and security… but why not let it evolve naturally? Maybe by the time you let yourself want it, that guy will finally want it too.
I’m not sure if any of this is valuable advice. I just thought about it and I’ve never looked at it this way before. It might take some more time to cultivate this idea more thoroughly, but I just thought I’d put it out there.