Dad, you probably will never realize that you chose a favorite over me. Whereas I was your child of a divorce and he was your child in a current marriage, we were never treated the same. When he was encouraged to keep trying at band and school, I was told I had to start working to support myself. Going further in life, where he picked up more hours practicing his trade, I picked up more hours on the job to afford being independent. We are both your children. You had a hand in making us. To this day you probably don’t realize what you have done to alienate me from our family. Even now, despite the lack of encouragement or support, I have risen up and done well for myself. Supported myself through college and am about to be the first of your children to graduate from college. Not to my surprise, there is no encouragement given.