• Stop Being Mean

    by  • June 27, 2010 • Children, Family Stuff, Knock it Off, Parents • 1 Comment

    I’m at my wits end trying to figure out why so much negativity is constantly emanating from you. I know it’s not possible to be happy all the time, and we do appreciate the times when you are. But generally speaking every other word out of your mouth is an insult directed at one of your brothers or sisters. I am so frustrated I don’t even know where to begin. But it doesn’t stop there. When I talk to you and try to give you guidance, your response is that you wish I would divorce your stepmother. Now, to cap everything off, you’ve gone beyond the bounds and vandalized your stepsister’s car. What did any of us do to deserve such hatred? How come you never give it a rest? Right when I start to think we’ve turned a corner, you’re at it again. I seriously don’t want to send another hateful person out into the world. Prisons are full of them already. Not from my house. You need to understand that your hateful words and actions are not acceptable. We’re all together in this, we’re all bound by the same rules. This universe runs on love. All I try to show you is love. I won’t tolerate hate in my house. Attention to anyone who thinks it’s cool to be mean: things are going to become considerably UN-cool for you unless you straighten out RIGHT NOW.

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    One Response to Stop Being Mean

    1. Cheryle
      September 6, 2010 at 10:48 am

      Something happened, and she’s not going to serve it up on a silver platter. Sounds like she feels the step-mom is abusing her power. You better listen to her.

      Bottom line, though: it will continue getting worse until YOU identify the problem, acknowledge it, and SOLVE it. That probably won’t happen without counseling. FAMILY COUNSELING…the ENTIRE family. She is not the problem, only a symptom.

      My question is how much do you REALLY want to solve the problem? Enough to give up a few hours a week to get professional assistance? Enough to put away your pride and admit you made mistakes? Enough to set boundaries and do the WORK it takes to uphold them and follow through when she crosses them? Enough to research how to PRODUCTIVELY change what hasn’t been working to something that may? Enough to make more than a superficial effort to solve the problem…will you follow through for the long term, when it really matters?

      Her actions are response to something in her life. FIND OUT WHAT IT IS! I work with kids like yours every day.



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